Sometimes, our time is not enough.
This is extravagant to say, of course, considering time is one of the best gifts we can give our children. Time together, time apart, time to learn and grow.
But I just had another baby, and now time is something I just keep coming up short on. Not enough for me, not enough for my spouse and surely not equally enough for each of my two boys.
And I feel really guilty about that.
Our new baby boy is doing wonderful, and our 3-year-old is adjusting very well to his sibling. But almost immediately, I felt so guilty as we managed this new transition together. I was spending less time outside with my toddler, because I had to be inside feeding the baby. Or I was spending less time holding the baby, because toddlers still need supper and baths, after all. And so it went. This is not unexpected and, soon enough, it will be both the boys playing outside while I stand alone inside wondering where all that time I had before went.
But right now, I just miss my children. So I’m adjusting my mindset. It’s time to re-evaluate how I spend my time with each child: More invested, more intentional and just better.
We’ve got a lot of living to do and no time to waste.
This restoration of thought is nothing new. All the time, we should be reminding ourselves to live intentionally in the moment — to be present with our company, to put our phones down and so on. We know this and are hopefully doing our best. But when it has to do with my children, I feel called more than ever to take myself seriously.
Each day with them is so finite and darling, so it’s best to just let go of the guilt and hang on to the joy!
And it’s best to love them fully. There’s always enough of that to go around.
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